Friday, September 30, 2005

UNIXOPHOBIA

Eunuchs
I'm not THAT scared of snakes. I'm not THAT scared of darkness. I'm not THAT scared of heights.

I'm THAT scared of eunuchs!

One day, I was walking home from school. A eunuch who was walking towards me (seemingly innocently) suddenly swung out his hand. Clunk went the rap on my testicles! I felt like a sparrow on a high-voltage transformer!! Didn't know how to react; ran away.

Next day. Same time. Same road. Same eunuch. I furiously tried to cross the road before he got to me, and in the last second, I threw myself across the road in panic, narrowly lunging out of his hand reaching towards my groin!! (That eunuch looked more male than female hence the male references above)

Since that day, I have been "excrementally" scared of eunuchs! Experiences that my friends recounted about eunuchs barging into long distance trains and pestering people for money, articles that I read in magazines about how eunuchs trap young boys and castrate them; these have turned me into a blob of quivering jelly at the very sight of them!

I'm blogging about this today because I read an article on the third sex, written by my friend Smita Sahay, some years ago. Read Article. She says they have been so shunned and discriminated against that they have no way of expressing their emotional or physical needs.

I confess that somehow, I am unable to view them with sympathy; they still FREAK the filaments out of me! And their behaviour in public places certainly doesn't help make matters better. Brrrrrrrrrr...

35 comments:

priya said...

On my way up north, we had quite a lot "them" visiting us in the trains..i made the upper birth my abode .. everytime i hear their "claps" (even a distant sign) i act like im zzzzzing..:D

strategy priya :)

..p..

DaldaDappa and Proud said...

i think they should stick to themselves... because any sort of attempt at anyone is harassment... they can be accepted as long as they act like the rest of us dignified... if they go around doing such obscene things they are no different to all the other outcastes that our society creates...
Not had much experience, but like you and Priya I do anything possible to avoid them!

Random Access said...

There are quite a few hanging arnd in nungambakkam at nights as well. Singapore aint no diff too :P I guess if its a nuisance, like all others, ignore it. How come u r so fervently abusive abt noise but aint so abt this issue...beats me..aana ore the social issues a pochu!

hmm, on second thot, all i can write is how every other place has a couple cuddling together irritating the hell outta single guys like me :P

Random Access
The search has just begun !!!

Vinesh said...

@Priya: Good strategy, Capt. Bad. These kinds of ideas...only you fossibil! :-)

@Preethi: I feel the same way. Good that you haven't had much experience!

@Random Access: I am fervently abusive about this issue! Some of these guys are lunatics! The reason it may have taken a mellow hue in my post is because I posted just after reading my friend's article.

vee-jay said...

I have mixed feelings about the third sex - On one side I am really scared of them and on the other side, really pity them.. Poor things!!! Your friend is right - they just have no ways of expressing their emotional and physical needs

Jeevan said...

They know they will born like eunuch, No. This is Nature, what can we do for them. Some times they go on our road also, they will clap there hands and ask money, some persons will ran after seeing them. The government should give them a new life and should give a job, afterwards why are they coming to roads.

Vinesh said...

@Vee-jay: But from our point of view, what can we do, but feel scared?

@Jeevan: I heard some time ago that the government has reserved some position in their offices for eunuchs. Not sure about what other policies there are, if there are.

Kaushik Ramajayam said...

Oww... I still freak out each time I have to travel by train through Andhra Pradesh (which I have to, each time I go home) - I don't approve of begging & rarely give out money, but I pay the eunuchs to avoid harassment. Feigning sleep doesn't work, neither does confrontation.

Hpwever, I do think they are ill-treated by society and deserve much better. After all if Shabnam Mausi can rise up to hold public office, her counterparts can do well for themselves too. Right now though, it's just a vicious cycle - society ill-treats them, they are forced to resort to harassment and the flesh trade; society treats them worse than ever...

Srinivasan said...

I completely agree with u...I am scared of them from the day I first heard about them and even today, if I happen to see some of them on the road while walking, I keep distance from them :)

Once I was travelling in a train from Secundrabad to Bangalore when a local beggar 9 came and asked for money..When I refused, s(h)e raised the skirt s(h)e was wearing and grunted something like "Ikkis rupai dhena.."..before s(h)e cud advance the skirt somemore, I quickly took some coins from my purse and gave it...I escaped :)

Ayshu said...

ya you r rite....enakum romba bayam avangala paartha !
:-(

div said...

even i am scared of them.. i have seen them troubling young guys only... they never come closer to girls, dont knw why??. even in bangalore we get to see them in many places.
oh god, why did u make this 3rd sex?? they r romba pavam..

sukhanya said...

I have no comments about this. I feel sorry for them more than being scared. I feel they are after all HUMANS yaar....I think they try to do "things" to guys to add more population to their crowd.....as far as I know I think it is Guy by birth turns a Eunuch for various reasons. SO I think they dont come near to girls...

well .. dont know wht more to say..

@ RARA : Enna poraaamaiya?? unna yaaru andha oorla thaniya utkaara sonnadhu... ;-)

tata
sukku

Narayanan Venkitu said...

I have a lot of sympathy for eunuchs but the stories and your experiences are bad indeed.

I think the system to let them live the life they want to, without creating public nuisance. One such nuisance is what you mentioned.

Narayanan Venkitu said...

I have a lot of sympathy for eunuchs but the stories and your experiences are bad indeed.

I think the system to let them live the life they want to, without creating public nuisance. One such nuisance is what you mentioned.

Nalin said...

I must admit I try to keep that subtle distance from them. But once it was a very hot day and 3 of them tried to get into a relatively empty bus. The conductor stubbonly refused to let them in with a comment ,'Neengellaam veyilla nadandhu saavunga'. I still feel a sharp pang of sadness when I think of this incident. Is this a result of the common error of generalisation?

Ramo said...

We have a photocopy guy in our office who is a eunuch.People make fun of him mostly! but I never do...his behaviour is also not bad...limited to only work mostly!

regarding stray eunuchs, they should behave properly otherwise they cannot get any respect...

aftercomment:
two invention by your post:
Fear of eunuchs: 'Ali'bia.
Pronoun for eunuchs: shey(she+he+they)or (s)he

Vinesh said...

@Kaushik: You summed it aptly buddy, the vicious circle, bad gets worse and worse becomes worst!

@Srinivasan: Your experience sounds as bad as mine :-(

@Ayshu: Same pinch no back pinch! :-)

Vinesh said...

@Divya: Another question to the huge list God has to answer...

@Sukhanya: I think on your terms too. I guess they are females trapped in a male body.

@Narayanan Venkitu: I have not seen the police doing anything when they cause this kind of public nuisance!

Vinesh said...

@Nalin: I agree, we must not generalise. if a drunkard beats us one day, it doesn't mean all men are lunatics! Still, since their population is very small, even one eunuch misbehaving is viewed as a reflection of his/her entire clan

@Ramo: Ali-bia, LOL! :-) I thought Muslims might take offence to that word! :-)
Shey! Idhe oxford dictionary-kku anuppalaame! :-)

div said...

you might have heard of MAD-AD competition held in colleges..last year we performed a MAD-AD in which one of our product was beauty products for eunuchs. & the scene was chakka(eunuchs)fashion show.. i will post it later in my blog about it..
at first we were announced that we got first place later they gave us second prize bcoz we performed a show on eunuchs.. :-( the judges were not broad minded...i think soo

tt_giant said...

whoo.. scary experience indeed. It is hard to reason out why they are attracted to men. Unfortunately, it is a stigma in our society and it would be very difficult to change our mentality.

யாத்திரீகன் said...

hm... the first time i had experience with an enunch was when i had to travel to Cal ...

me too had a kinda irritated,scary thought about them due to that first incident, later had hands on a Novel which narrates an Enunch life, in his/her perspective, a kinda biography of an enunch,

the truths in those novels were like hitting right on the face... was pretty hard to digest..

& esp one incident, in which a family which has 3 elder girls and finds the last kid turning to be an enunch in his teen age, they call the enunch's nearby and ask them to take away the boy, since he may spoil sisters marriage...

and the ceremony the enunchs do to accept anyone as an enunch is so horrible and like with no one to educate them on this, its still continuing..

had to finish the book with a heavy heart..

manchiko-ba.. vinesh.. konjam tension aagi.. kotitaen..

Ram.C said...

These things do happen.. as you had mentioned, it is scarier. But it doesn't stop only with Eunuchs.. there are worse human attitudes than theirs.

Sneha Acharya said...

oops even i have a bad experience with thm .. once whn i was travelling in bus i was so much engaged vedikkai pathufying outside the window as i love tht most .. suddenly realised that all ppl in the bus are looking at me and whn i turned right ... to my horror a enunch was sitting next to me and smiled at me .. MY GOD!!! .. she/he demanded money and only after i gave 10rs to her/him she/he left ... whew ... even my father had explned their worst behavior whn they come to our shop to ask money ... they can have disabilities ... but they shoud not use that for earnign money .. che

Kroopa Shah (Kr00pz) said...

The fact that society does not accept them makes them more desperate leading to their 'weird' (as we would think) behaviour. Why does their sexuality concern us? If they were given the same respect that we are, there would fewer incidents of such 'disturbing' behaviour in public.

mysorean said...

I am with you on this Vinesh.

I have had horrible experiences with them. And as you say they do "Freak" the filaments out of me too! :))

About government regulations and justifications for their behaving this way: Aren't they human beings having the power to discern and decide what's sensible enough to do and not to do? Troubling others has no justification.

Silpa said...

Arey have some faith and love....think of a mentally retarded person...would you say the same thing if such a person did the same thing? They do it involuntarily, they are brought up like that. Think about it.

Vinesh said...

@Silpa: Please don't use the term "mentally retarded", it is offensive, use "challenged" instead.

Mentally challenged people are placed in special homes. They are not allowed to roam freely on the roads.

This was only in response to ur comparison. I do not agree that eunuchs are like the mentally challenged.

Silpa said...

Oh being politically correct eh? Well even then mentally "challenged" people are not always put in special homes for pete's sake! How is it politically correct to state that they're all put in special homes? There are many different types of mentally challenged people. And if you take the right efforts you can make them independent. Similarly, if you take the right efforts instead of cribbing about issues like eunuchs bothering you (which of course they may be) or cos of construction work (which also might be affecting you), these problems can be solved. Now how to go about it is a long story which is unnecessary for me to state cos I have no authority on the subject. But I do know one thing, special people have special needs no matter how special they are. I really dunno how eunuchs' minds work, but they are also born into this earth. People are trying to spread vegetarianism, what's the point of giving rights to plants when you cannot even give the same rights to all types of humans?

Silpa said...

or even try to make them feel at home on earth?

Vinesh said...

@Silpa: You have opened my eyes to the importance of being socially relevant. I am ashamed for my irresponsible comments. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Assume a hot gal is before you and assume you are sexually attracted towards her. How do you behave? You go and hug her in public (Though many male do all worse virtually in mind ) I assume "NO" as your answer. But why? Because you are respected in society, you have ego , you identify yourself as so and so , you dont want to put down your family image. Well what’s there for eunuch part? We (as both us belong to this society) done all worse to them and made them to go to an edge where there is no hope for them to live. This mother earth is not yours to live a life you think or person you want around you.
Please note my intension is not to hurt you but just my view on why they behave that way.


Lines form "Sting" album can be thought from the eunuch part

"...Don't judge me
You could be me in another life
In another set of circumstances"

If you believe Hindu way of living ( I don’t know about other religion ) You know Lord Shiva himself manifest as eunuch or even Arjuna a real stud,Hero and friend of Lord Krsna had to live a life of eunuch.

You dare write this incident in blog but you are not daring to face what we have done to them. After this incident feel bad for them and think how much we neglect so that they behave this way in public.

Partha said...

dude,
the eunuchs in mumbai come demand money in traffic signals and if you refuse to pay up, they spit on you. gross!

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